Whether you're divorcing, fighting a custody case, prepping a modification, or co-parenting through chronic conflict — Compass reads the message, names the tactic, and writes the calm, court-safe reply. In 60 seconds. Built by someone who's been there.
One hour your attorney spends drafting a reply to a hostile text covers more than seven months of Compass at the mid-tier. Most members keep the lawyer for court — and stop calling them about every weekend exchange.
The decree is signed. The lawyer is paid. And then the texts start — baiting, blame-shifting, the 200-word screed about pickup time. You read it three times. You start typing back. You delete it. You start again. It is 11:47 PM and you have work in seven hours.
Paste it into Compass. We name the tactic (DARVO, gaslighting, financial pressure, provocation), pull the facts that actually matter, and write three court-safe replies in three different tones — BIFF, gray rock, medium chill. Pick one. Hit send. Go to bed.
Cancel anytime. The first three captures are free.
Compass works the way you already receive messages. Screenshot it, forward the email, or paste the text. No new app to live in. No journaling required.
Screenshot the message from iMessage, OurFamilyWizard, TalkingParents, or any app. Forward emails to your private Compass address. Compass reads the text and pulls in the thread.
Compass names what's really being said — manipulation tactics like DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender), gaslighting, financial pressure, provocation — and shows you what NOT to do before you react.
Three court-safe response drafts in different tones. Copy with one tap, paste back where the message came from. Done in under a minute.
Ask ChatGPT to "write a reply that puts him in his place" and it will. Cheerfully. It has no idea you're in custody litigation, no memory of your case, no restraint when you're spiraling at 11 PM, and no awareness that the message you're about to send could end up as Exhibit A. Compass is purpose-built for one situation — and the guardrails are the product.
You can pay $20/mo for ChatGPT and re-paste your custody timeline, your kids' ages, your hearing date, and your goals into every new chat — or you can use a tool that already knows.
If you tell ChatGPT "write me a reply that puts him in his place," it will. Cheerfully. Compass detects the high-conflict moment, locks the draft behind a 10-30-60 minute cooldown, and tells you what your reaction will look like to a judge before you send it.
Profanity, threats, sarcasm, anything that reads as parental alienation — all of it shows up in opposing counsel's exhibit binder. Compass is trained on the response frameworks family-law professionals already use (Brief-Informative-Friendly-Firm, gray rock, medium chill) and flags phrases that read as hostile before you send.
Your ChatGPT conversation history is not legally privileged — it can be subpoenaed, and OpenAI has been ordered to retain chats. Compass is encrypted, ephemeral by default, and built so that your drafting process can't be turned into evidence against you.
The honest version: a smart user with a $20 ChatGPT subscription can replicate maybe 30% of Compass — if they're disciplined, calm, and willing to re-prompt their entire situation every session. They will not do this at 11 PM after the third hostile text. That's the whole product.
Compass is shaped around the patterns real people in high-conflict family court face — divorce, custody, modifications, co-parenting. Not generic relationship advice, not legal templates.
When Compass flags a high-conflict moment, it generates the reply but locks the copy button behind a timer you set — 10, 30, or 60 minutes. You can't grab the draft early. The point is to slow you down, not the message.
One-tap export: communication patterns, incident log, 30-day risk score trend, drafted questions. Whether you're meeting an attorney or walking into court self-represented — you walk in organized.
Tuned to the personality patterns that drive most family-court conflict — borderline (BPD), narcissistic (NPD), and antisocial (ASPD). Uses proven response methods: BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), gray rock (give nothing emotional to react to), and medium chill (polite but disengaged) — applied to your actual situation, not pulled from a book.
Age-appropriate scripts for explaining changes to your children, handling alienation patterns, and protecting them from adult conflict.
Encrypted in transit and at rest. Not used to train AI. Deleted when you cancel.
If you or your children are in immediate danger, Compass routes you to the right resources — DV hotline, child protection, emergency services — instantly.
A structured 12-section builder turns your situation into a parenting plan written the way judges and mediators read them — holiday rotation, weekday/weekend schedules, exchange logistics, decision-making authority. The kind of document attorneys charge $1,500 to draft.
Written in the language judges and mediators expect — no "every other weekend" ambiguity. Specific dates, specific times, specific exchange locations.
If you have a high-conflict co-parent, the builder tightens every loose clause — no "as agreed" or "reasonable" language they can weaponize later.
Twelve named sections you can edit, regenerate, or hand off to your attorney — schedule, holidays, exchanges, decision-making, communication, travel, and the rest.
Family-law attorneys average $350/hr. A meaningful share of that goes to reactively triaging text and email conflict between exes — work clients hate paying for and lawyers don't love doing. The cheapest path through this isn't a cheaper attorney; it's fewer reasons to call one.
Most people in family court aren't on Reddit at midnight. They text their sister. They call their mom. They email their attorney and watch the meter tick. They Google “is this gaslighting” and read three articles that don't help. Compass is the option that didn't exist before — and we're not trying to replace the people who love you.
| Text a friend or family | Call/email your attorney | Google or ChatGPT | Therapist | Compass | |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Available at 11 PM when the text hits | Sometimes — if they're awake and not exhausted by you yet | No — you'll get a reply Tuesday at $350/hr | Yes — but generic, no idea who you are | No — next session is Thursday | Yes — instant |
| Knows your case, your kids, your goals | Yes — they love you, they're not neutral | Yes — if you can afford the hours | No — you re-explain everything every time | Yes — once a week | Yes — by default |
| Names what's actually happening (manipulation tactics, conflict patterns) | Rarely — they validate, they don't diagnose | Sometimes — but only on the legal side | Generic articles, generic answers | Yes — but not in the moment | Yes — tuned to high-conflict patterns |
| Holds your reply back so you don't send the wrong thing | "You should TOTALLY say that" — not a brake | No — they reply for you, then bill you | No — ChatGPT will write the angriest version you ask for | No | Yes — timer-locked draft |
| Drafts a court-safe reply you can copy and paste | No — they vent with you | Yes — at $30–60 per email | Yes, but no idea what survives a hearing | No — they coach, they don't draft | Yes — court-safe, documented |
| Builds a record for hearing or attorney handoff | No — your group chat isn't evidence | Yes — if you pay them to organize it | No | Therapy notes are privileged — not for court | Yes — hearing-prep PDF |
| Private from your ex's lawyer | Texts and group chats are discoverable | Yes — attorney-client privileged | ChatGPT chats are not privileged — can be subpoenaed | Yes — protected | Encrypted, ephemeral by default |
| Cost per month | Free — paid in friendships you're wearing out | $200–$800 just on text-and-email triage | $0–$20 | $600–$1,200 if you can find one | $19–$89 |
Roughly 72% of people in family court don't have an attorney — not because they don't want one, but because attorneys cost $5,000 retainers and $350/hour. (Lawyers call this pro-se.) Compass is the closest thing to a paralegal you can afford: hearing prep, exhibit binders, drafted questions, and the documentation that opposing counsel walks in with.
The bound exhibit binder you couldn't afford to have prepared. Communication patterns, incident timeline, drafted questions for direct and cross. Walks into court with you.
What to bring, what to wear, what to say. How to address the judge, when to object, and the eleven mistakes self-represented parents make in their first hearing.
The questions a custody evaluator or guardian-ad-litem will ask, the answers that hurt you, and the way to talk about your ex without sounding like the high-conflict one.
You don't need an account to read any of this. The same playbook our members use to handle the hardest moments — and the language to make sense of what's happening.
What to bring, what to wear, what to say to the judge. Cross-examination, evidence rules, and the eleven mistakes self-represented parents make in their first hearing.
Read the guide →Age-by-age scripts (3-6, 7-10, 11-14, 15-18), the seven alienation traps to avoid, and when to involve a therapist.
Read the guide →The full library: reply frameworks, court prep, recurring traps, and the documentation that survives a hearing.
Browse all guides →Pick the plan that fits your situation. Cancel anytime in-app. The next message that lands is one you can answer with a clear head instead of a clenched jaw.
No. Compass is a communication coach, not a law firm. We help you respond more clearly, document better, and prepare for what's next. For legal questions specific to your case you still need an attorney — and Compass is designed to make that meeting (or your self-represented hearing) more effective, not to replace it.
Yes. Family court isn't just for divorce. Custody disputes between never-married parents, paternity cases, parenting plan modifications, child support disputes, restraining orders, and post-decree co-parenting conflict all run through the same court system — and through the same kinds of hostile messages, late-night texts, and judgment calls Compass is built for.
You probably already are — most members were doing all of the above when they signed up. Friends and family love you, but they're not neutral and they're getting tired. Your attorney is the right call for legal strategy, but $350/hr to triage a text isn't sustainable. ChatGPT will write you the angriest reply you ask for. Compass does the one part none of them do: instant analysis, a locked-draft cooldown, court-safe drafts, and an exportable record.
No. Nothing Compass produces is sent automatically. You read the analysis privately, decide what to send, copy the draft, and paste it back into your normal channel. The only person who knows you're using Compass is you.